With the very popular ‘Sex and the City’ movie showing in theaters around the world, it makes a person wonder how much of this is reality? How many women have friends like this, or is it just something we all desire?
From my experience in talking to other women, at least in the United States, it seems to be something we desire, but do not have. With our mobile society it is becoming increasingly difficult to find and maintain good friendships. You know, the kind you can call for a quick coffee, a movie, or even a road trip.
Women in the United States seem to at a roadblock when it comes to meeting new female friends. If you do not work with them, live next to them, go to church with them, how do you meet? People, and women in particular, are very busy. Between our busy work schedules, and for some, family demands, it is hard enough to find the time for “us” time, much less friend time.
We, as women, don’t go sit in bars alone hoping to meet people, at least not very often. Especially if we are looking for female friends since we are likely to be the only female sitting there. If you do go, some random guy will think you are there to meet him!
So, how do we meet new friends? At the gym, the bookstore, the coffee shop? Do people really strike up conversations with one another in these places? If you have children, you may be able to meet other women through school and sport activities your children are involved in, but they are probably just as busy as you. On-line dating has worked for many in finding the love of their life, so why not a website for women to find friends? My City Sisters is hoping to fill that need. A website that has just launched, it is determined to be the place “Where Women Find New Friends”.
For new members, they offer a 1 week free trial membership, but during the launch phase, they are offering the first 100 women who sign up a totally free one year membership with full member benefits.
I believe in the need for female friendship. I’ve studied the research, talked and listened to bunches of women and I’ve started an entrepreneurial business dedicated to female friendship. We NEED girlfriends. And, by having girlfriends, we lower our stress, are healthier, happier and live longer. Plus, it just makes like a lot more fun.
How do we find friends? First, we need to be a friend. We may need to reach out to other women when they need a friend. We need to not judge or distance ourselves over little stuff. Friendship is much bigger than getting the attention of a guy or looking/feeling better than another female. If we’re a girlfriend to other women, we make friends and we have amazing friends to help us deal with life, stress, guys, jobs, change, etc.
Think about your friends when you were growing up. You had fun together – giggling, sharing stories, figuring out who you were, going on adventures. Life isn’t that different. You can still call a girlfriend to share a laugh or a cry, go on a trip or just hang out and having a drink or dinner to catch up on life.
Be a girlfriend. Call up a friend. Ask her how’s she’s doing and listen. Remember birthdays. Send a surprise email or package to make her day. Give her a compliment and gossip good about her to mutual friends.
Thanks for the post on female friendship! Best regards, Debba / Girlfriendology – an online community for women based on inspiriation, appreciation and celebration of female friendship
http://www.girlfriendology.com